What if sex was the only draw in a relationship? What if one of the actors exposes his or her opinion that completely alienates the other? Would sex be enough to continue the relationship? Beware of the following, because I probably will break many taboos while writing this. The hypothetical situation I am postulating can happen to anyone.
A woman in her sixties meets a man, also in his sixties, over the Internet. Neither of them are looking for a roommate or marriage. What they want is fun, as defined by random sexual interludes. Suppose this affair goes on for over a year, enjoying the best sex either one of them have had in a long time, if ever. This goes on because they realize that sex in their sixties can be maintained and enjoyed with the added implementation of toys. Toys can stimulate and excite when the physical sixties body can’t always perform. Just because you’re older doesn’t mean you’re dead.
So what is the conflict in this story? For one, it’s the meeting of the minds. If the woman is liberal and believes in equality, common sense, intelligence, learning, and benefits for all realizes that the man she has been seeing for physical enjoyment is not only caring, understanding, and the perfect lover, but is also the total opposite in political and social views. She is shocked, because this is not what she expected. But he doesn’t read. At all. Nothing. So he bases his opinion on the charlatans who spew hatred and lies and contortions over the airways without any basis in fact and whose only interest is making a ton of money.
Therefore, any thoughts about exploring a more expansive relationship that might include dating, dinners, and introduction to friends and family are dashed. She even thinks about not seeing him again – ever. For anything. She is shocked speechless when she hears how he really thinks and what he believes. He is an alien. His narrow mindedness, his prejudice, his simplification and distortion of facts ruins the relationship for her.
Even the best sex in the world cannot sustain a relationship that is on a collision course with respect for the other’s beliefs, even when they care about each other within the tight confines of a sexual affair.
So the question becomes: is physical pleasure enough of a reason to keep seeing a man who opinion she hates?